• How Fast It Flies By: What Has Happened to My Sweet Little Baby???

    Posted on July 2, 2013 by Darcy in Crib Notes, Parenting.

    Thus far in my short blogging career, the vast majority of my time has been spent talking about my older son. The reason has nothing to do with me liking him better than my baby (I don’t!). The primary reason is that my older son is at an age where he is doing some really quirky, totally hysterical, sometimes confusing, and borderline maniacal things. And everything with my preschooler is new for me. First smiles, first crawls, first steps are exciting and delightful, but we’ve done them before. And well, my sweet baby is… well, he’s just so sweet!

    My little baby cuddles me and naps on me. He immediately crawls into my lap if I sit on the floor. He laughs at all of my silly faces, and he gives me kisses when I ask for them. He lights up when I walk into a room. And he only cries when he’s hungry, tired, or in the throes of some particularly painful teething episode.

    So imagine my surprise the other day when my children were dutifully playing on our living room floor, various toys strewn all over the place, and I heard a loud scream and what sounded like a chiding of the baby variety. I found the boys having a serious tussle over a toy that my baby had been playing with (or chewing on). And my baby was not taking any crap from his older brother.

    Most of the time when the boys are playing, the baby follows his older brother around and swipes up his leftover and forgotten toys and puts them in his mouth. When my older son takes toys from the baby, the baby generally moves on to the next object without complaint. But this time was different – this time the baby asserted himself. And like he did after he started crawling and standing up, as soon as he figured out this new trick, he has been doing it nonstop since.

    I thought I would have a bit more of a grace period before my children started fighting! But it also got me thinking.

    The first time around, I was so anxious to watch my older son hit all his milestones, that it was only in retrospect that I realized how fast the baby period flew. You’re in a haze of infancy and new motherhood, followed by a quick succession of major milestones, and bam, you have a child off to preschool (my parents tell me it feels that way when you’re dropping your kids off at college!). With my baby, I wasn’t anxious about milestones – I knew from experience he’d hit them. And by not focusing on them, I find that I have blinked and he’s on the verge of becoming a toddler.

    So my sweet little baby is becoming bossy, assertive, and more independent each day. He’s insistent about playing on stairs, goes straight for the most dangerous object in any room, and is as chatty and loud as his big brother. And he’s standing up to his brother now, which I have to say as a younger sibling myself, makes me proud!

    The time our children spend as babies is so short-lived, and like so many things in life, you only seem to notice it after. And I’ve done it before! So my only advice to parents with new babies is to cherish those cuddles and hazy days. Though I know that this is a lot easier said than done when you are sleep deprived, unshowered, and have been vomited on twice before it’s even noon.

    When did you first notice your sweet baby starting to assert herself? What do you find to be the biggest differences between parenting a baby and a toddler?

    Naughty Patrick

    Don’t tell my brother – I’ve hidden all of his toys in here.

3 Responses so far.

  1. Michelle says:

    I agree with everything here. The second time around FLIES by. It’s a combination of being less anxious for the second (or third in my case) to hit the milestones, having older kids to take care of who are also doing new things and the fact that my little one has hit the milestones a lot sooner than his older sibling — probably because he wants to keep up with his older siblings.

    I can also appreciate the baby so much more now. The toddlers are off doing there own thing and don’t need/want me as much. The baby still just LOVES me and ONLY ME! I didn’t realize before that this would end so I’m loving it now.

    Still as much as I want to freeze time, I don’t want to freeze time. They are so cute and loving as babies but they are pretty cool to hang out with as toddlers.

  2. Noa says:

    April turned 6 months the other day and I almost cried about it. She’s not yet a toddler, but I will probably cry about that too.

    • Darcy says:

      Nah. You won’t cry because toddlerhood just sneaks up on you. One day you’ll be in a supermarket and she’ll throw a crazy temper tantrum because you won’t get her the candy at the check out aisle, and then you’ll know. Wait. Maybe you will cry. Haha

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