It’s that time again – the end of the year. And with the end of the year and the post-holiday hangover comes the time honored tradition of the New Year’s Resolution. In taking time to reflect on the past year, and thinking about where in my life I could make some improvements, I have decided to put together a list of my resolutions. I figure that once I have transmitted them out over the interwebs, I’ll have no choice but to actually follow through with them.
- I am going to put down the smart phone, and step away from the Facebook. In this age of digital mobility, we basically have a computer in our back pocket at all times. While it’s fantastic that I never get lost (thank you, Google Maps!), that I can find child care just about anywhere, and it’s awesome to be able to check my email on the go (since I am mostly on the go these days), it’s also a terribly bad habit I’ve gotten into of constantly looking at my phone. What am I doing on it? I have no idea most of the time. Reading inane status updates and looking at pictures of people’s dogs. So I vow in 2014 to stop spending so much time looking at people’s virtual lives while I am missing what’s going on in my real life. I’m sorry, Girl I Went To Nursery School With – I’m not going to be able to “like” your album from your vacation in Belize right now – I will be playing with my sons at the playground.
- I am going to take more jogs and read more books. I love doing both, but I get lazy when it comes to both, and I make excuses. After a typical exhausting and busy day, I can barely make it through a Real Housewives of Wherever, let alone a chapter in a book. In 2014, I am going to make a concerted effort to carve out the time for both of these activities, because not only do I actually love doing both, but I feel better about myself once I have done them. I will also teach my little one how to read more, and give them a real reading head start in life.
- I am going to stop being so naggy. This one is for my husband. I sometimes find myself talking to my husband like he’s my third son. (In my defense, sometimes he acts like it!) When you hear yourself talking and all you can hear is Kate Gosselin, it’s time to give the nagging a break. I really really don’t want my husband to turn into Jon Gosselin. In 2014, I am going to take a breath and let it go when Andy uses a brand new towel for each shower he takes and each bath our children take. I will try not to mention that towel racks were invented for a reason.
- I am going to stop complaining. Yes, children are hard, life is hectic, and I am exhausted. But I also have it pretty good. Really good actually. I am having the best time of my life, and I don’t want my life to pass by while I am busy looking back with nostalgia on more carefree times, or looking forward to the future where I imagine things will be easier. In 2014, I am going to be more present in the present. I have a lot to be thankful for, and I am going to start acknowledging that fact to myself more.
- Eat more cheese and dark chocolate. Because I love them and they bring me pleasure. I need to make at least one resolution that I am sure I can keep in 2014.
- I am going to stop being so darn hard on myself. This is one resolution that I hope most of you out there will join with me. As women especially, we are our own worst critics. It is going to become my main goal in 2014 to try get through each day without beating myself up for all of my shortcomings. I will not chide myself for not reading enough, for watching too much TV, for eating too much junk, for not working hard enough, for yelling too much, for not being pretty or thin enough, for not being a good enough mother or a loving enough wife, for not being perfect. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I am doing the best I can, and I love my family with my whole heart. In 2014, I am going to start working on loving myself a little more, too. What do you say, are you with me?
Well they’re out there for the world to see. But please, if I run into you in February, don’t ask how my resolutions are coming along. Happy New Year!!!