• First Day of Nursery School – Guess Who Cried More?

    Posted on May 25, 2013 by Darcy in Crib Notes, Nursery School.

    Two and a half years ago when I brought my oldest son to daycare for his first day, the daycare staff kept reassuring me, “He’s fine! Don’t worry! He’ll love it here!” I wept as I walked from the daycare center to my work. I called hourly to check in on his status (most of the time it was: “napping”). Needless to say, the adjustment was much more traumatic for new mom me than it was for my little baby.

    At one point early on, the center director told me that in the baby room, parents visited their children everyday on lunch breaks, and popped in often throughout the day to say hi or just look in on their babies. But, to my shock and disbelief, once their children reached the toddler room, parents could only be seen around the center at the designated drop off and pick up times. I have a toddler come preschooler now. And guess what? I get it.

    A few weeks ago we reached another major milestone in our lives, as my son had his first day of nursery school. And this time it was my son who did more of the crying.

    Toddlers and preschoolers are (obviously) much more aware of their environments than young babies, who are happy so long as they are being cuddled, fed, kept clean, and have enough sleep. While our children’s physical needs become less demanding the older they get, the emotional demands increase twentyfold. Combine that with a healthy dose of boundary pushing and parental defiance often referred to as the terrible twos (or threes or fours!), we may be sleeping through the night, but we’re often more exhausted.

    So I admit it. I dropped my son off at nursery school for his first day, and with a zip in my step I sped away to relish the three hours I would have by myself (well, with my young baby). But, in my defense, I couldn’t wait to pick him up and see him after!

    How do you cope with your “terrible” two year old? How do you find parenting a preschooler different than a baby? And… are you as exhausted as I am???

    Emmet Gives a Thumbs Up

    Looks like the first day of nursery school was a success!

4 Responses so far.

  1. Michelle says:

    Can’t wait to see how my twins like nursery school this September. I’m thinking that because both of them are going to be in the same class, it will be fine? Thoughts?

    • Darcy says:

      I think kids are incredibly adaptable, and your kids would be fine in the same class or different classes. You worry more than they do, I promise! Emmett’s nursery school had a great settling in period because their philosophy is that they never want a child there who doesn’t want to be there. Now every morning when I drop Emmett off he tells me, “Mommy, you can go now.” Easy peasy. I think the most interesting thing for you with twins might be seeing them make friends independently of each other in their new environment. It’s an exciting time watching our babies become little people!

  2. Darcy says:

    Thanks Cary! I totally agree. These little people we have created just become more and more complex the more they grow into their own personalities. I wish I had known how easy just one baby was when I had it! (Watch for a post to follow on transition from 1 to 2. I am sure you will relate!)

  3. Cary says:

    So true! As I bring my 3 1/2 year old to nursery school I give a kiss good bye and peel her off of me! I find the emotional challenge of parenting a preschooler/toddler so much more challenging, making the separation a well needed break. It will be interesting to see if leaving my second child feels as challenging as it did with the first as a baby, so far that is easier as well since I know she will be well cared for and ok when I return.

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